I can't believe I have to spend time figuring out how to login to my semi-abandoned website and post a blog to set the record straight about this Shitty Men list...but here we are.
First of all, I didn't delete my Twitter account because of it. I deleted it on January 1st to take a break from Twitter, not because someone pissed me off or because I can't handle the heat (come on now)...simply because I am too accessible on Twitter and was bombarded daily with requests from aspiring actors, writers, directors, etc., mostly members of traditionally excluded groups in Hollywood, like women & POC, desperately asking me to help them break into the industry. I'm not good at saying 'no' to people who really deserve a yes. But there are only so many screenplays I can read, so many coffees and lunches or Skype talks I can have with folks, before my own life and work suffers. It was getting to the point where I had anxiety attacks just looking at my Twitter DM box. This is nobody's fault but my own. I should be able to set boundaries and protect my own time, but as I said...it's not something I do well. I'm trying to figure it out...but also, it would be great if other people in my industry would come up with ways for kids from families and communities who don't have connections in Hollywood to at least have a shot at breaking into this industry.
Since I've been off Twitter a few people who have my phone number or email have sent me messages about stuff that's going on. I'm not always pleased to receive these messages because they're usually about some insane injustice taking place in Hollywood and it always feels to me like I'm the only fight dog people want to send in. It's social media folks, not an MMA cage. You can do your own fighting, you know? Years of training are not needed, just a backbone and a moral compass.
This whole "fighting every fight for the greater good" is tiring anyway...especially in Hollywood.
Do you have any idea what it feels like to be a member of a very small group of women who made so much noise and fought so many fights against unions and establishments that we eventually got the EEOC to investigate the discrimination of women directors in Hollywood, which basically scared Executives into banging the diversity drum...just to watch those same Executives then reach out and hire a "new, hot" female director from Australia who, when asked about discrimination against women directors, answers with: "Yeah, I don't see it. I think it's all about how talented you are."
It feels just as shitty as when you watch a whole bunch of celebrities with #TimesUp pins take credit for a movement that you spent years trying to help and consult victims for, in secret chat rooms, way before it was a movement and back when those same celebrities still gave you the side-eye for even thinking of outing a powerful sexual harasser.
So yeah...I really shouldn't have to fight anybody or anything for a while and instead be able to focus on making movies and TV, because I've done my part and have the scars to prove it. But of course, when someone texts me and explains that a young woman's safety is at stake and if I would participate in some type of Spartacus campaign, I can hardly say no...given that teaching women self-defense and personal safety is kind of my thing.
Little did I know that a whole bunch of people, people who should really know better, thought it was completely believable that I have the scoop on who the scumbags are in New York based media outlets. ??????
Now stop talking shit about me and why I left Twitter and instead focus on helping the young woman who created that list or punch someone whose name is on the list in the head.